Many of the trendy and pretentious can be heard to say they are "ex-Catholics" or "Recovering Catholic", knowing that regardless how bigoted or uniformed their statements are that they are rarely called out for their ignorance.
and can we completely blame them?
A man seeking a wife may pass the love of his life while walking through town, but will not pass her again once he has been formally introduced and had time to get to know her.
The pseudo ex-Catholics are like the man out for a stroll who keeps passing the beloved instead of getting introduced. They too have never actually met their bride, and mainly because they are looking for what the media, or Hollywood, or Protestantism has told them their bride should look like. Not knowing truth, they eagerly accept the pretty lie.
Is it really the fault of these unimformed, or does the burden of truth lie with, and in, we the faithful?
The Church, whether the religious or the laity, has to learn to teach better, to instruct fully the young and the old about what we believe, why we believe it, and why it matters. We also need to respect, but challenge, priests who take a wishy washy attitude to catechesis, and we really need to, in love, chastise priests who commit error (whether willfully or in ignorance). We must share with our brothers and sisters the truth if we see them acting or saying error.
If we don't aggressively teach the truth about Holy Mother Church, than that non-denominational mega-church down the street will be happy to teach the lies about her.